Jun 28 2009

Little Rock pt. 2

abelara

my previous post concerning our recent trip to Little Rock described what happened, a sorta timeline of actual events. this post will instead concentrate on my (abe) mental, emotional, and spiritual journey leading up to and while there.

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[in case you're wondering what FamilyLife's decision is about us joining staff: sorry, we can't tell you yet via this blog or anything else public on the inter-webs until July 1st. if you really wanna know call, text, or email me, or actually come over and visit in person, what a concept.]

our story with the Ministry of FamilyLife begins as far as I can remember in 1999. deb and I had only been married for a couple months when we were given a scholarship to attend a Weekend to Remember conference in Bellevue, WA. i was finishing up my senior year of college and deb still had another year till she finished up her AA. we were both working at a daycare not too far from the college and i wasn’t really sure what i wanted to do with our lives after i graduated. i had gone to school and gotten a BA in Biblical Literature. i knew that i was called to do full time ministry, but what i wasn’t sure of was where, how, or what?

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Jul 31 2008

summer vacation

abelara

hanging out with julia and rachel

in addition to being an associate pastor, i also work at a local middle school. most of our family’s “cash” income comes from the school. i say “cash” income, because when you factor in our church salary + the value of living in the parsonage rent free w/o paying for utilities it comes out in favor of the church compensation. so even though our paycheck from the church isn’t much, we are very grateful for the full package and our compensation with the church. but we still need dinero to buy “stuff” (gas, clothes, food, insurance, school loans, etc.)

anyways, that being said i have a bit of a relaxed schedule in the summer time since i don’t have to work at the school. and today while on my run i started wondering, “what does everyone else who works at the school do with their summer vacations?

i’m sure some of them get a ’summer’ job and make extra money, some probably go traveling, or some probably do what i’ve been doing – nothing.

at the beginning of the summer i thought about getting another job. i even went so far as to ask my brother-in-law to join him in construction. but in the end that didn’t work out and i didn’t pursue anything else.

and as much as we could use the money to put towards our school loan debt, it’s been really nice to just have lazy days. now when i say lazy, it’s not like i’m not helping out around the house. but there’s not really any pressing schedule on us.

it’s nice to not be stressed out by trying to get to such and such a place, or leave by such and such a time, and then feel exhausted at the end of the day and not feel like we’ve spent any time together as a couple or with our kids.

in fact some days deb and i look at each other and say and/or think “what should we do today?” – “lets do something to fill the time” – “if we don’t plan something, the day’s just going to waste away”

now while some of you may read this and think what a great problem to have, or wish you too could have months of vacation time paid (btw, it’s paid because they prorate the hours i work during the school year and divide by twelve. so during the school year i’m getting paid less than what the hours time my pay rate would equal).

and the fact is that compared to the rest of the industrialized world we lack WAY behind in terms of vacation time. a couple weeks ago we had some friends over for dinner. it was a high school friend of deb’s and her husband and young child. he’s from england and they are now both part of wycliff translators. anyways they came back to the states on “holiday” and they were around for like a month or more. and from what i understand when most people in the uk take their holiday pay, they actually use it to just relax and rejuvenate.

if you click on link above it will show you a comparison of the required vacation time employers are mandated to give in the G8 nations.

you know it’s biblical. God commanded his people to take a vacation at least once a week. and when a couple was married they to take a year long honeymoon.

so even though you may not get almost 12 weeks off of work as i do, i encourage you to take time for yourself, for your family. don’t live so rushed or hurried. it’d be good to say every once in a while, “i don’t know, what do you wanna do?” (for some reason i recall seeing some video or movie or tv show where two people kept asking that to each other back and forth. but i couldn’t remember what it was or a link to it, if you know what i’m talking about i’d love to hear about it.)

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// today i’m thankful for:
1. my wife
2. air conditioning
3. winning two bids on ebay
4. one for a new camera
5. the other for an SD card and card reader