Aug 10 2010

they are us now

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from left to right (click to enlarge): Jeremiah, Aaliyah, Jorge, Maggie, Mario, Cathy, Nyelie, Isaac, Jorge

Introducing… (insert drumroll)

The new Najeras!!!

Yesterday my sister and brother-in-law have now become the proud parents of 7 kids. Yes, SEVEN!!

Three of the kids pictured above are now officially in the process of being adopted by Jorge and Maggie. As with any adoption story the process began in the Najera’s hearts long before the judge gave the official word yesterday. From what I understand though the catalyst really began last fall, November 8th, 2009 to be exact. That was the date of Orphan Sunday. Orphan Sunday is a simulcast that is sponsored the Christian Alliance of Orphans (a group of several orphan, adoption, and foster care ministries).  We hosted this event at our church this past year, and probably will again this year.  Mark your calendars, November 7, 2010.

But I’ll let Maggie write about her story in more detail herself. I’ll update this post with a link to her story, if and/or when she writes it.

As for my thoughts, I think it’s fantastic! I’m amazed at how “big” that family looks in the picture above.  And I’m used to seeing big families, we have six of our own kids and are joiningministry where many of the staff also have large families. I think it’s because of most of the kids above are literally “bigger” than ours so even though it’s really just one more person in the picture above than our own family, they “look” like a bigger family because they’re mostly older/bigger. It makes me wonder how “big” our family is gonna look like in a few years.

I’m also excited because adoption is something that Deborah and I have seriously talked about before so it’s nice to know someone personally (and so close to us) who has actually gone through the process. I will say that we have talked about it seriously, but don’t see a change in our family size any time soon.  We’ll revisit the topic after we’ve finished raising our missionary support and are somewhat settled in Little Rock before pursuing that path.

For those who do not know my sister and brother-in-law, it may be hard for you to figure out which kids are theirs by birth and which have been added via adoption. And I purposely have left out that information. You see, as for Deborah and I, we see these newly adopted kids as always having been a part of our extended family. Although they have officially become our kid’s cousins yesterday. God has always known that they would become a part of our family, they were simply born to a different person than my sister, born in a different city and time that we weren’t aware of. But from the moment they were conceived they were part of us, we just didn’t know it yet. It’s not like my sister threw God a curve ball, instead it took time for Him to work on her and her husband.

These kids are in the process of being adopted. The first step of which was completed yesterday. Once this process is complete they will have been adopted. They aren’t going to be in a perpetual state of “adopted-ness”. Jorge and Maggie have now taken them as their own. They’re not going to play favorites between their kids by birth and the ones who were added later.

When you think about it, these kids will be a part of the family much, much longer from here on out than they were absent from it before. They are us now.

I know people have a curiosity in knowing, but I’m not going to satisfy it. Perhaps Maggie will in her own story telling. As for those of you who do know the Najera family, and already know which kids are the “grafted in” ones, will you join with me and welcome them to the family. Regardless of the issues that they bring with them because of the things they have gone through in their short but difficult lives, they are us now.


Jul 22 2010

Urgent Prayer for Deborah (updated)

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I received a call from Deborah as I was leaving work saying that she was headed to the hospital because of constant chest pain most of the day. In her words between a 6-8 on a 1-10 scale. So I’ll be meeting her there to get things checked out.

thank you for your prayers and support. I’ll be posting updates to my twitter account (link below) as we find out further details. (fyi: you don’t need to have a twitter account to view the updates, simply click the link below)

http://twitter.com/abelara

I’ll write a follow up email/post in a couple days once things have sorted out.

thanks for your support and your prayers.

UPDATE:

thanks for your prayers everyone,

the joint connecting her sternum to her ribs was inflamed. they gave her some pain medication.  although they’re not sure what caused it, but they said it should go away in a few days, if she can rest and do her best to “take it easy” with 6 kids; and take pain meds if needed.

once again, thanks for your notes of encouragement, support, and prayers.


Jul 13 2010

fun in the cousin’s pool

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we recently got a family season pass to our city pool, but it’s closed on sundays. so we headed on over to the cousins house for some fun.

the cousin’s pool had a leak so the water wasn’t filled up as much. perfect height for the twins though since they could touch the bottom and stand with their head above water.

this by far though has been the scariest video I’ve shot with my new iPhone. as you can tell part of this was shot with me holding the phone over the ledge just above the water in order to get the lower angle shot. I just kept thinking, “don’t slip, don’t fall… don’t slip, don’t fall… don’t slip, don’t fall…”


Jun 5 2010

the bow, the cord, and the arrows

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“As unto the bow the cord is,
So unto the man is woman,
Though she bends him, she obeys him,
Though she draws him, yet she follows,
Useless each without the other!”

we recently heard the beauty of the opening stanza of this poem during one of the sessions at our Weekend to Remember Marriage Getaway (www.FamilyLife.com/weekend).  

it’s a beautiful picture of oneness that God designed for marriage to be; a picture of tension yet harmony. it’s a beautiful picture of how marriage should be. but the serendipitous moment for me came when I realized this picture in the light of the following verses:
3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
    the fruit of the womb, a reward.
4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior
    are the children of one’s youth.
5 Blessed is the man
    who fills his quiver with them!
  He shall not be put to shame
    when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

God’s perfect plans for your kids are best lived out when you and your spouse are in perfect harmony.  

the bow, the cord, and the arrows have a purpose and they work together beautifully when used properly. I agree with Hiawatha, “Useless each without the other!”


May 9 2010

instant classics

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every once in a while something catches your eye and you know it’s going to be an instant classic.  the picture above is one of those “somethings”.  i call it Our Mama. we went out to take family pictures but i was ill equipped and didn’t have a tripod. and it was cold and windy, and the sun was setting fast so the light was soon disappearing.  so i’d set up my camera to just start snapping a bunch of pictures every few seconds.  this is one of the ones taken while i was still trying to balance it on the hood of our minivan, before i ran over to be in the picture.

btw: click on the picture to see a bigger version

i just love how it captures the important central role Deborah plays in the lives of our girls.  as she shapes and molds them into women of God.  Happy Mother’s Day.

here’s some other Mother’s Day “instant classics” that i enjoy:

although not an instant classic like the one above, i just couldn’t resist this close runner up:

in case you wondered what being a daddy of 6 girls is like: (anna is hanging on too behind me. you can see her hand below my chin and her other arm around my right shoulder.)


Apr 18 2010

oops

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a little site maintenance…

i wanna apologize to any of you that have recently tried to contact us using the contact link at the top of the page. i just realized that the plugin that i use to manage this changed the default email address to “you@example.com” the last time the plugin was updated. so unfortunately, we haven’t received any contact requests in who knows how long and we have no way of retrieving them.

really, we haven’t been purposefully ignoring you.

here’s a cute picture of us to make you feel better :)  (click to enlarge)
spring family pic 2010


Mar 4 2010

you can call me…

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i’m somewhat particular about my name.  particularly when my name is written.  here’s the rules of my name: 

• you can call me Abraham or abe. (notice that when shortened to abe, i prefer the A to be lowercase)  

• growing up my sisters started calling me aber or Aber (they never wrote it so i’m not sure if i like it upper or lowercase).  while this feels very natural coming from my sisters, if feels/sounds VERY weird coming from anyone else, no matter how long you’ve known me. my wife doesn’t even call me aber.

• also when used with my wife’s name i prefer that both of our names be long as in Abraham and Deborah, or both to be shortened as in abe and deb. we’re just kinda weird like that, it looks strange to us to see either Abe and Deborah, or Abraham and Deb.

• Deborah isn’t as particular as to whether her first initial is upper or lowercase when using Deb/deb.  Although she always initially introduces herself as Deborah, and only after people get to know her do they start calling her deb. she’s mentioned that after she returned from the year she was in the internship at TeenMania, it was weird to hear all my friends who hadn’t met her refer to her as Deb because that’s what i had been calling her. but she also prefers to have either both names long, or both names shortened when used together.  

• we do sometimes refer to ourselves as deboraham (only when speaking, not in writing). we’ve heard others refer to us that way, but not when speaking to us directly. and it may be cute the first time or two if you were to start referring to us that way directly, but we’d probably soon tire of it.

anyways, i just thought you’d like to know a little bit more into the quirkiness that makes up the Laras. :)

Feb 8 2010

hard work = big reward!

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our niece has definitely worked hard for the money to get this. she’s watched all 6 of our kids several times by herself while we were out on appointments.

congratulations Cathy on your new iPod Touch!


Jan 9 2010

our little family

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after our Christmas meal this year we went out and took some family pics.

here’s a candid one that I just love.

we stick together.


Dec 17 2009

8 smiles

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eight faces, eight smiles, all facing the same direction.  that’s all we ask for. what could be so hard about that?

here’s some of my favorite pics from our recent photo shoot that didn’t make the cut into the Christmas card and including the one that did.

(thanks to michael sekaquaptewa for holding the camera.)